Saturday, October 31, 2015

The Homeless

The Homeless & beggars

My wife is getting her MPH at BYU. Last week she and her classmates went around Salt Lake City stopping at places like the Fourth Street Clinic, American Cancer Society, and the Utah Department of Health to learn how each organization's system worked. 

The Fourth Street Clinic provides health care to the homeless. The only requirement to receiving the care is that you're homeless. They determine your homelessness by asking where have you slept the past few nights. The only kind of health care they do not provide is bone setting and baby deliverance(but they will refer you to where you can go to have the free health care for these things).

Kylee was able to speak with one of the representatives at the clinic. One comment the rep. made was that "It would surprise you how busy homeless people are." When Kylee asked her what she meant, she told her how they have almost no free time in their day. When they wake up they have to go stand in a line to get food. This can take quite a while. Then they have to go stand in line at a shelter to secure a place to sleep for the night. This can take hours out of a day. Especially if one shelter is full and they end up having to walk to another one and stand in line again for another few hours. Then they have to stand in line again for more food. Often times they have some type of illness or injury that requires a visit with the doctor. They then have to go to the Fourth Street Clinic and stand in line for hours more. By the time they've taken care of their needs maybe they will then have some time left in the day to humiliate themselves asking perfect strangers for money on a freeway exit.

At work one day we were driving from Idaho back to Utah and we drove past a beggar. One of my co-workers whipped out his wallet like he had been in this situation a hundred times and pulled out a ten dollar bill. When he started rolling down the window another co-worker said "Don't give that to him". The first guy stopped, later explaining that he thought his co-worker knew of some policy that wouldn't allow firefighters to give out money or something. By the time he realized that wasn't the case, the car had started driving again and the beggar was left without relief. 

The guy who had told him to stop said "You're not helping him by giving him money. He is learning to be lazy, may go use the money to buy drugs or alcohol, and it won't motivate him to go get a job and take care of himself." 

The guy who was going to give money felt pretty bad. He told me that next time he is in that situation, consequences be damned, he is going to give relief to the beggar.

After having seen this play out at work and hearing what beggars and the homeless actually go through day to day, the worn and tired argument that  "they'll misuse the money" or "it teaches them to be lazy" doesn't seem so valid. Because giving them money can save them hours in a day by letting them buy a meal instead of having to stand in line for it. This way they can have time to look for a job. Or maybe it will help them find some clothes that would be suitable for a job interview that they wouldn't be able to buy otherwise.

After thinking about it for a while I thought, who cares what they do with the money anyways? Aren't we supposed to give to those who ask? Give our coat to him that sues for out cloak? Bless them that curse you? Not judge the beggar? 

Honestly, if the only relief this poor guy gets is buying a couple beers to take his mind off of stuff because it is the only thing he knows how to do to gain relief, then freak… Have some money brother. Maybe some day someone can teach him a better way. Or maybe showing compassion is the best way to teach and the beggar can think about that and let it change them.


Just something I have been thinking about. 

Friday, March 20, 2015

Line Upon Line, Page Upon Page

We had a wonderful honey moon in St. George. We will definitely make a habit of visiting the place we stayed throughout our lives.

On the way home Kylee wanted to pick up where she left off listening in the last book in the "Ender's Game" series. After a few minutes of listening, an unfamiliar(to me) name kept popping up. When I asked who "Jane" was Kylee let out a chuckling huff and said, "I mean... it has taken hundreds of pages to explain who she is. It would be kind of hard to summarize who she is." and then she proceeded to try. We talked about who Jane was and how she came into the story for a solid half hour, then made here and there comments and asked here and there questions about her for much of the rest of the trip.

On my mission I was asked to have prepared a "Short lesson plan"(3-5 minutes), "Medium lesson plan"(10-15 minutes), and a "Full lesson plan" (30-45 minutes)(Preach My Gospel Ch. 1) to present to those great Wisconsinites. I had THE HARDEST time with even a full lesson plan. I had read thousands of pages of scripture, books, blogs, etc and felt like I still was learning basics of the message God wanted me to understand. How was I supposed to summarize that in 45 minutes?

The best lessons we taught as missionaries lasted hours. Love was shown in our commitment to staying so long and people felt that. Hard to tackle questions were answered with careful explanation and on-the-spot study and prayer. These things took time. Even if we didn't get them to join our church, they had voids filled and came closer to God.

It was after these lengthy discussions, prayers, and searching that these people had faith to look at Christ and do things he wanted them to.

The gospel can't be summarized. It is infinite in scope.

"Behold, great and marvelous are the works of the Lord. How unsearchable are the depths of the mysteries of him; and it is impossible that man should find out all his ways. And no man knoweth of his ways save it be revealed unto him;"- Jacob 4:8

I am grateful for Kylee's wisdom.

I am grateful for God's Wisdom in her.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Full Moon

Full moons - when the moon shines her light at its brightest upon the earth, and the light has won the battle over darkness - appear to last about three nights.

Tonight is the first of those three nights for the month of March.

Think about it.

Happy Shushan Purim!

Monday, March 2, 2015

Shushan Purim

The Jewish Holiday Shushan Purim, celebrated in the Jewish calendar on Adar 15, or the Gregorian calendar March 6, is a day when the Jews rested after defeating their enemies and a day when their sorrow was turned into joy.


Esther 9:20-22

"20 ¶And Mordecai wrote these things, and sent letters unto all the Jews that were in all the provinces of the king Ahasuerus, both nigh and far,

21 To stablish this among them, that they should keep the fourteenth day of the month Adar, and the fifteenth day of the same, yearly,

22 As the days wherein the Jews rested from their enemies, and the month which was turned unto them from sorrow to joy, and from mourning into a good day: that they should make them days of feasting and joy, and of sending portions one to another, and gifts to the poor."


I think I will celebrate with the Jews this year.

Happy Shushan Purim!

Sunday, March 1, 2015

Hope

I had a dream last summer. Kylee and I had to put up with a lot of opposition, but it the end were carried away from it effortlessly by God.

What a year and two months it has been since we met. It has been filled with light, love, happiness, mistakes, hurt feelings, sorrow, forgiveness, good humor, bad humor, light hearts and heavy minds, hard work, perseverance, failure, success, lessons learned, battling the odds and winning, dreams forgotten and dreams fulfilled, and here we are. Five days from marriage.

It has seemed that every possible thing that could oppose us, has. I don't expect the opposition to ever really let up. Not for now anyway. These next five days will probably be trying. We have asked God for help though and despite the fact that everything looked hopeless and impossible, here we are. Happy, stronger, and five days from the promise made in a vision of the night.

For those without hope: keep going until the promise is fulfilled.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Firepits, Frozen, and Flames - What are you?

We have been called crazy...


We have been called annoying...

                                                                             We have been called disgusting...
And funny...















And cool...



And cute...


And weird...

And fun...




















Whatever we are, I am just glad that we ARE and that we ARE whatever we are together.

#GAG #Muhbestfriend

Thursday, February 27, 2014

Firepits, Frozen, and Flames - Part 11b

As he sat in church that day he wondered what it would be like to be sitting there with her.

*Bzzzzzzzzz*

"Well, we're good on my end!"

Oh man. Thought we were going to wait a little bit to say anything. Oh well! Don't have that to worry about now! Freaking.. wonder how that went over. 

"I will tell them after church"

When they arrived home they all gathered in his parents room.

"So, I have something to tell you guys."

They looked at him and waited

"Uhhhh... Yeah. Kylee and I are actually dating haha." he said with a smile

"Oh wow. When did you decide that?"

"Hah... the first night."

....

"Hey love. So how'd it go?"

"Haha my siblings rock. I love them. They totally stood up for us!"

"Nice! That's definitely good! I love your siblings"

Oh shoot. That means there needed to be something to stand up for...Oh shoot.

"Yeah, but after we talked my mom said they were just giving me a hard time and they really didn't care that much."

WHEW